Fill Your LIfe With Love

To my wonderful readers. Each year, as Valentine day approaches, I can think of no better words to share with you than those contained in a message that was sent to me by my friend and ardent Blog reader, Joan Vieweger. Joan is a principal of Choclatique who, along with her food genius partner Ed Engoron, run one of if not the world’s greatest creators of specialty chocolates.

While we do not know who wrote it, it is certainly a powerful message and does not need any commentary from me other than to wish you and those you love a wonderful Valentine’s day filled with Love.

Another year has passed
And we’re all a little older.
Last summer felt hotter
And winter seems much colder.

There was a time not long ago
When life was quite a blast.
Now I fully understand
About ‘Living in the Past’

We used to go to weddings,
Football games and lunches..
Now we go to funeral homes
And after-funeral brunches.

We used to have hangovers,
From parties that were gay.
Now we suffer body aches
And whine the night away.

We used to go out dining,
And couldn’t get our fill.
Now we ask for doggie bags,
Come home and take a pill.

We used to often travel
To places near and far.
Now we get sore asses
From riding in the car.

We used to go to nightclubs
And drink a little booze.
Now we stay home at night
And watch the evening news.

That, my friend is how life is,
And now my tale is told.
So, enjoy each day and live it up…
Before you’re too damned old!

See Choclatique @ www.choclatique.com/

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging and will be staring to teach a class about how to enjoy life’s journey, at the new Calabasas, California Senior Center on Wednesday, February , 2017.

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Bob was in trouble. He forgot his wedding anniversary. His wife was really angry. She told him “Tomorrow morning, I expect to find a gift in the driveway that goes from 0 to 200 in 6 seconds AND IT BETTER BE THERE!”

The next morning he got up early and left for work. When his wife woke up, she looked out the window and sure enough there was a box gift-wrapped in the middle of the driveway.

Confused, the wife put on her robe and ran out to the driveway, brought the box back in the house. She opened it and found a brand new bathroom scale.

Bob has been missing since Friday.

A little over a year ago, as we were leaving a party late one evening and I was helping my dear friend Christina into my car, which was sparked on a hilly street, I fell. Ever since then, Christina has told people that I fell for her at a party.

Getting more serious, over the past five years in my various writings about the journey of life, I have on many occasions written about the things we need to be concerned about as we age. Today, I want to address the issue which, according to every study on aging reports as the number one cause of death of seniors, and that is “Falling”.

Yes, dear friends, over 75% of deaths of those over 65 years of age result from a fall, which is followed by hospitalization, rehab, pneumonia, and death.

The single most important sense we have is that of “sight”. No matter what your age, when you see someone you know, a family member or friend, who it is obvious has a walking problem, do not be afraid to speak up to make certain they give up their independence and get help.

Park your car in the parking lot of any super market, shopping center, medical offices, etc. and watch as elderly persons get out of their cars and struggle with walkers to enter those buildings, and you quickly realize what danger confronts them.

It is not only a danger to their life, but if they survive the fall, they and their families are faced with large medical costs, many of which are not covered by insurance, for months, weeks, or years. The families of the elderly who live at home, also need to make certain that their loved one’s home is as fall safe as possible.

I live in an assisted living center, and I can sadly tell you, my readers that, despite the fact that the facility is well staffed and the high percentage of persons with walkers and wheel chairs have significant caregivers around them all the time, not a day goes by without one or more residents falling and requiring hospitalization; and not all of them survive.Those that do, are forever confined to wheel chairs and require personal caregivers 24 hours a day.

As we live longer, we are faced with a growing number of healthcare related issues. While our life can end due to many illnesses, it remains that falling and the related consequences, is the greatest life and financial threat to the elderly and their families.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Reflections of Life As Seen Through the Poets’ Eyes

Bearing The Fruits of Old Age

Strange as it may seem to you I still remember it so clearly
She had soft flowing hair and sparkling eyes
And a smile so warm and glistening so sweet and tenderly
She was my Mother a warm precious woman who sang me beautiful lullabies.

Standing there beside her all smiles and expressing great joy
Was a handsome young man in his late 20’s who could not be any happier
As he looked at his family’s brand new Toy
And silently planned the youngster’s future life and career

As I lay there silently observing the two of them rejoice I could not help but wonder
Had the family that I was placed in been a very wise choice
While so far it seemed okay to me, I knew that only time would provide the answer
And then I heard these two persons say to each other “I love you” in a soft and caring voice.

Any doubts I had were gone and I relaxed and went to sleep waiting very excitingly
To see what the future held knowing that I was quite safe as my life’s journey began
Each day was filled with fun and felt heavenly as I learned to speak, walk and do other fun things
I laughed, played games as my father chased me as around the block as I ran
Now you may think that this is all nonsense and how could anyone remember such long ago things?
But it is really very true and there is even more
And as I go on looking back and so warmly remembering
What occurred in my life many, many years ago.

I continued my journey, with siblings who joined along the way
Along with extended family and friends added
My life was enriched and each and every day
I felt so much rewarded

Then a marriage and children followed and I watched in joy with some astonishment
As I became the parent like my own Parents were, from my very start
It was a great time and memorable moment
One that touched my loving heart

As time went on I suddenly found that the ones I had most loved and adored and who had taken such good care of me
Had aged and finally been take away
And all I had was a wonderful memory

Now, I am aging and my body is slowing down
It is my very good fortune to have an active mind and I remember as I did from the beginning
Each and every joyful event and the interesting life I have known
I watch my own children, grand and great grandchildren; life’s adventure they are winning

So to the young and Seniors of the world my message is the same. Learn from each other, grow your lives and forgive the errors others make as they took life’s journey.

A Poem by Bernard S. Otis

He’s Back!!!! For all those who have been writing and calling asking what happened to Bernie Otis, the answer is – I am back.

After taking some time between Thanksgiving and the New Year to reflect on where I have been and what the future looks like, as well as doing a lot of reading (one of my favorite pastimes), I am ready to accept the challenge the coming months present – in case you have not listened to the news lately.

In a few weeks, January 29th to be very specific, I will be celebrating my 89th Birthday. And while I do not normally use my religious resources in my writings, today’s Blog is based upon something that Rabbi Bradley Shavit Artson wrote in his interpretation of this past week’s Torah Portion, Va-Era (He Appeared). It is something persons of all ages should think about, but most specifically those who are moving close to their 80th year of life.

It is entitled “Bearing The Fruits of Old Age”

In our Society there is nothing more consuming than the fear of old age. We spend thousands of dollars on products that make us feel and look young, we find ways to dress to appear young, and we belong to health and exercise clubs to help make us youngish. But, as the Rabbi points out, “We can ward off death and prevent its encroachment into the realm of life, only by truly living each and every day, only by refusing to see the elderly as the walking dead, or by not viewing aging as the equivalent of dying.”

Just consider this: when you read the Bible you discover that Moses and his brother Aaron were both in their 80’s when they took on the Pharaoh. And nowhere else in the Torah are any other prophets addressed directly by God.

When you read the Bible and Torah you find that the Eighties are referred to as the years of strength. And what is that strength? Yes, the rabbi points out that, “surely a teenager is stronger physically, a child can run farther and exudes more energy, the acumen of a 40 year old is more quick and deft, and a 60 year old is more cognizant of the ways of the world. But, the strength of the 80’s is the wisdom that comes from experience and completion”

Those of us who have reached those fruitful years have lived a life filled with joy and happiness, we have experienced the pain and suffering, we can look at life with compassion and skepticism. We no longer need to work with passion and ambition. And we have spent time caring for the elderly.

So don’t put yourself, or those aged among you out into the pasture. Learn from us as we share with you the lessons that life has taught us.—the aged among our society still flourish like the Cedars planted in the Courthouse of our Creator.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Note to My Readers

Every once in a while, I come across writings of others which impress me so much that I want to share them with you. Today’s Blog is such a message. It is written by my friend the well-known author, writer and health care executive, Glen Van Ekeren, whose blog “Enthused About Life” is very popular. I hope you are as moved by it as I have been.

Measuring Greatness

“The way I like to measure greatness is…How many people can you make want to be better? In your time on earth, how many people can you affect? Or how many people can you inspire?”

– Will Smith

I’ve Been Thinking. . . I can’t think of a better way to measure personal greatness than by the lives you enrich?

(Editor’s Note: You probably know this story from the popularized television commercial, but Glen includes the actual story here, with historic reference link, in case you missed it and to make his point.)

Wishing to encourage her young son’s progress on the piano, a mother took her boy to a Paderewski concert. After they were seated, the mother spotted an old friend in the audience and walked down the aisle to greet her. Seizing the opportunity to explore the wonders of the concert hall, the little boy rose and eventually explored his way through a door marked “no admittance”. When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing.

Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impressive Steinway piano on stage. In horror, the mother saw her little boy sitting at the keyboard, innocently picking out Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. At that moment, the great piano master made his entrance, quickly moved to the piano, and whispered in the boy’s ear, “Don’t quit. Keep playing.”

Then, leaning over, Paderewski reached down with his left hand and began filling in a bass part. Soon his right arm reached around to the other side of the child, and he added a running obbligato. Together, the old master and the young novice transformed what could have been a frightening situation into a wonderfully creative experience. The audience was so mesmerized that they couldn’t recall what else the great master played. Only the classic, Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ignacy_Jan_Paderewski

I love working with team members who reflect Paderewski’s attitude: willing to give up center stage. True all-stars aren’t overly impressed with themselves. They may have ‘star’ billing but understand they are only as good as their teammates help them to be.

No one team member is indispensable but every team member deserves a shot at center stage. Leaving egos at the door levels the playing field for everyone.

Encourage the contribution of others. “Don’t Quit. Keep Playing.” Can you imagine how the little boy felt when the superstar arrived, shared the bench and encouraged him to keep doing what he was doing.

People often overlook the positive impact a little encouragement can provide. Someone once said, “Encouragement is oxygen to the soul.” Encouragement improves quality of life. . . and performance.

Reach in to help make sweet music. Great team players add their strengths to the performance thereby helping to create win-win results for everyone.

The most satisfying achievements are masterfully orchestrated by combining individual talents and collaborating efforts to achieve a unified goal.

Celebrate “We” successes. Basketball Hall of Famer Bill Russell, when asked about the importance of team work, responded: “The most important measure of how good of a game I played was how much better I’d made my teammates play.” There’s nothing more fun for a team than celebrating “we” successes.

How are you measuring your greatness?

“When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.”
– William Arthur Ward

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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The Most Important Word

A woman came out of her home and saw Three Old Men
She said, “I don’t think I know you. Please come in and have something to eat.”

They asked; “Is the man of the house at home?”
“No, he is out”
. “Then we cannot come in”
.
In the evening, when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go and invite them in”, he said.

The woman went and invited them in.
“We do not go into a house together.”
Why is that?”

One of them then explained; “He is Wealth and the other is Success and I am Love.

Now ask your husband which one of Us is invited in.”

The woman told her husband what was said. “Since that is the case, lets invite Wealth His wife disagreed. “My dear why don’t we invite “Success?”

Their daughter jumped in with her suggestion; “Would it not be better to invite Love? “Let us heed our Daughter’s advice” said the husband to his wife.

The woman went out and asked the Three Old Men, “Which one of you is Love. Please come in and be our guest. Love got up and starting walking toward the house.

The other Two got up and followed him. Surprised the Woman asked; “Why are you coming in?” The Old Men replied together “If you had invited Wealth or Success the Other two of us would have stayed out. But since you invited Love, wherever he goes, We go with him”.

Akella Gourisankar
Management Advisor
Patna Area, India

Dictionaries are filled with words and their meaning. We are taught how to correctly spell them and given an interpretation of how they came to be.

What is not included, is the rating of which of these words has the most important affect on our lives. In fact if you think about it and look at what is going on in our lives every day, there is only one word, above all others, that has the most impact on our lives.

That word is love. No matter what your religious or personal belief, the fact is that all faiths are based on the word love. The love between two persons forms the basis of all human goodness.

Think about this; when we are born we have a love relationship with our parents. As we grow and leave that “Love” affair and our parents play a different role in our lives we move into a love relationship with another human being.

Our lives are forever affected by the love we share with our Creator, our family, our friends and the community.

There is nothing sadder than to watch the events that are taking place in our society as love is being replaced by hatred and distrust.

As the holiday season, a time for love and sharing, comes to a close, stop and think about what you can do to recognize the most important word in the dictionary — love, and enrich your life with its meaning and power.

Happy Holidays

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Thought for Thanksgiving


Eddie in Dallas, calls his son in New York just before Thanksgiving and tells him, “I am sorry to tell you but your mother and I are going to divorcing. I just cannot take any more of her moaning. We can’t stand the sight of each other anymore.’ I am telling you first, Eddie, because you are the eldest, please tell your sister”.

When Eddie calls his sister Julie, she says, “No way are they getting divorced, I will go over and see them for Thanksgiving.”

Julie phones here parents and tells them both, “You must NOT get divorced. Promise you won’t do anything until I get over there. I’m calling Eddie, and we’ll both be there with you tomorrow. Until then, don’t take any action, please listen to me”, and hangs up.

The father puts down the phone and turns to his wife and says, “Good news, Eddie and Julie are coming for Thanksgiving and they are both paying their own way.”

As we begin the Holiday Season it is time to take a recess from our fast-paced lives and reflect on what we individually, as well as collectively, have to be thankful for.

It is impossible to pick up a newspaper, turn on the television, or carry on discussions with business associates, family, or friends without being exposed to sadness and gloom. As a result, our daily lives are filled with negativity.

Realistically, however, if you stop to think about it, you will realize that there are many things we Americans have to be thankful for despite the challenges we face each and every day.

We live in a country where we are free to be with our family and friends. We have opportunities, despite the politics of the moment, to obtain an education, grow economically and have the most advanced medical care in the world and are free to practice our desired religious faith.
And most importantly, Americans can still speak out, both at the ballot box and publicly, to protest inequality in our society; if only we have the fortitude to so.

Finally, we are each free to pursue our dreams and make a difference in the lives of others.
When we stop and look at what is happening in countries around the world, is it any wonder why we should not, as we sit down to Thanksgiving Dinner with our families and friends, or as we serve those less fortunate, to understand that we have so much to be thankful for?

Enjoy the Holidays

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant.

During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Celebrating Awareness Month

An elderly woman decided to prepare her will and told her preacher she had two final requests. First, she wanted to be cremated and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Wal-Mart. Wal-Mart?” the preacher exclaimed. “Why Wal-Mart?” She answered, “Then I’ll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week.”

October is National Awareness Month; what exactly does that mean and why do we need to celebrate it?

We live at a time when our lives are on a fast track every day. We no longer Work to Live, but are more and more living to work. There is hardly any time to grow our lives by using one of our most God given assets, awareness.

Awareness of what is going on around us; awareness of the opportunities which are available to us to enjoy life, accomplish our dreams, enrich our minds, grow relationships. Awareness is also taking note of those in our community who are physically, mentally and financially afflicted; not only help them and their families financially, but to include them as members of our society.

Personally, I spend many hours each week with these groups and witness how they live in fear of being treated as being different not like us. The fact is, every day accidents occur which leave a loved one with a serious physical or mental disability. Suddenly, that person and their family joins those that society erroneously deems as being different.

If you want to be excited and inspired by the many members of our community who are adding to their awareness and enriching their lives by reaching out to those less fortunate, visit the Leichman Career & Transition Center in Van Nuys, or The Legacy in Woodman Hills. Become aware of the opportunities there are for you to add to your joy by understanding and putting your arms around those less fortunate than you.

We do not fully appreciate how fortunate we are until we are faced with the loss of that awareness through the aging process. It is indeed sad to visit assisted living centers, and nursing homes and meet senior citizens who are in reasonably good health, but have retired and given up on life. They have completely ignored the wonderful opportunities they have to keep themselves mentally sharp while helping young persons and their families by writing, speaking about, or personally sharing their thoughts with the generation that follows them.

I am 88 years of age. Each day, just by reading newspapers, magazines and being active in community activities, I become aware of opportunities to serve my community and bring joy to others.

Yes my dear readers, life does not only end on your last day, it ends when you give up living it and stop being aware of the joy you can have each day by remaining actively involved and seeking new opportunities.

Bernie’s 2 Books; How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life and Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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God Is Looking Out For Us

Most seniors never get enough exercise.

In his wisdom, God decreed that seniors become forgetful so they would have to search for their glasses, keys and other things, thus doing more walking. And God looked down and saw that it was good.

 Then God saw there was another need. In His wisdom He made seniors lose co-ordination so they would drop things, requiring them to bend, reach, and stretch. And God looked down and saw that it was good.

Then God considered the function of bladders and decided seniors would have additional calls of nature, requiring more trips to the bathroom, thus providing more exercise. God looked down and saw that it was good.

 So if you find as you age, you are getting up and down more, remember it’s God’s will. It is all in your best interest even though you mutter under your breath.

Over the past two weeks several events have occurred which underscore the importance that each person, at the earliest age, dedicate themselves to finding their meaning in life.

The first event was the news that a home, near where I lived, had blown up as a result of a short in the electrical system of a living room recliner chair. One person was seriously injured and one person killed. My empathy went out to those affected and I continued on my journey of life.

A week later I received an email from my friend and internationally respected Rabbi Ed Feinstein, informing me that his Father Burt, a dynamic brilliant retired baker and long time friend of mine was in a rehab facility near my home and would appreciate having visitors. I was stunned to learn that it was Burt’s home that had blown up and that he was seriously injured and his lovely care-giver was killed.

I immediately made arrangements to visit him and I was pleased to see him making a good recovery and in a very contemplative mood. He said that even though he was 90 years of age he had much to offer society and he suggested that it was most difficult for a person who retires to live a happy life free from the fear that as they get older they are moving toward death. In my daily activities which include visiting seniors in different homes for the aged as well in the community, I hear this all of the time. If you read on I will provide the answer to that question.

The second incident was the horrible event which took so many lives, of all ages-young and senior-in Las Vegas, a city in which I lived for 21 years.

Each of these events demonstrate why it is important to understand that, from the day we are born until the journey ends-and it can happen days, weeks, months, or years after our birth, that we live our lives not in fear of death but in anticipation of a happy tomorrow: finding time each day for expressing our love for our family and friends, time to help others less fortunate than ourselves and time for pursuing our goals.

What this means is that we should plan our lives by working smart and not hard and as we get older we need to be certain to share our knowledge with those who follow us. Burt asked me what I meant by that last comment as he is confined to a wheel chair as a result of a stroke he suffered some years ago.

I suggested he get a tape recorder and spend his day talking into it sharing his life’s experiences so that when his time comes, his wisdom would be available to others.

And to those who are still active in their late years, I suggest doing volunteer work with youngsters in public schools and reaching out to help those with disabilities and other physical or mental conditions.

Living a full and meaningful life from our earliest days and finding ways to deal with the many forks in the road, enables us to be good and valuable human beings when our days are completed — no matter when that is.

When someone tells me they fear death, I say know what you are saying is that you fear life and you need to learn how to live it!!!!!!

Have a Day of Joy

Bernie Otis

Bernie’s Books; How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life and Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Rules to Live By

After a long hot summer pause, during which I spent time with my dear friend Christina working on behalf of the Disabilities Community, I am back to my Blog writing and begin with a repeat of a blog I wrote several years ago which is worth repeating for the benefit of my new and regular blog readers. It is as applicable today as it was four years ago.

Very often my blog readers send me quotations, copies of articles, and funny stories which are so appropriate to the things I write about that, with their permission, I use them in place of my own thoughts.

My biggest contributor to this process is Joan Vieweger a principal of my favorite custom candy maker Choclatique. I know you will enjoy its message.

This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Regina Brett

90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

 

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.”

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short, enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8.  It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9.  Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the future.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don’t worry, God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special        occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d gra b ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

If you haven’t gotten your copy of my best-selling book, How to Prepare for Old Age: Without taking the fun out of life, please get your copy at your favorite bookstore or online at B&N or Amazon – today!

Bernie Otis is a well-known writer, author, and speaker, as well as a highly respected food, beverage, laundry, and marketing/sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

 Bernie’s book, How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” is an Amazon best-seller. Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on SeniorLiving Facilities and other issues related to Aging.

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Tribute to the Workers of the World

A fellow stopped at a rural gas station and, after filling his tank, bought a soft drink. He stood by his car to drink his cola and he watched a couple of men working along the roadside.
One man would dig a hole two or three feet deep and then move on. The other man came along behind and filled in the hole. While one was digging a new hole, the other was about 25 feet behind filling in the old.
“Hold it, hold it,” the fellow said to the men. “Can you tell me what’s going on here with this digging?”
“Well, we work for the county government,” one of the men said.
“But one of you is digging a hole and the other is filling it up. You’re not accomplishing anything. Aren’t you wasting the county’s money?”
“You don’t understand, mister,” one of the men said, leaning on his shovel and wiping his brow. “Normally there’s three of us; me, Joe and Mike. I dig the hole, Joe sticks in the tree and Mike here puts the dirt back.”
“Yeah,” piped up Mike. “Now just because Joe is sick, that doesn’t mean we can’t work, does it?”

On Monday September 5, 1887, 10,000 workers in New York took off work and gave up their pay to march from Union Square to City Hall to protest their unfair working conditions. As working conditions nationwide continued to worsen, more and more protests were held throughout the Country and in 1897, Oregon became the first of the States to make the first Monday in September a legal holiday called Labor Day.

This day has a particular meaning to me. As a teenager growing up in Detroit, Michigan I worked as a clerk in a major law firm which was partially owned by Victor Reuther, the brother of the founder of the United Auto Workers (UAW), Walter Reuther.

Both Walter and Victor were warm persons dedicated to making the horrendous working conditions in business and manufacturing firms better for millions of low paid workers throughout America.

In fact I stood beside Walter Reuther during the famous Battle of River Rouge, which occurred when thousands of Ford Motor Company employees marched against that Company in protest of their working conditions-a battle which forced one of the most anti-labor industrialists, Henry Ford to recognize the UAW and make improvements in the workers working conditions.

It was war time and Detroit, being the center of manufacturing of weapons, aircraft and other defense needs, was the center of the struggle to provide decent wages and working conditions for labor.

Throughout the country there were major parades, picnics and celebrations of the role of labor. On Labor Day, the President of The United States would come to Detroit to make major speeches. My fondest memory of that event was having Walter Reuther introduce me to President Harry Truman, who was accompanied by Senator Hubert Humphrey on Labor Day 1948 (As a result of the meeting I ended up working with the Senator when he founded the ADA-American’s for Democratic Action).

So, to all of you wonderful persons who labor every day to make our lives better, we should all join together and say thanks for being there for us and at the same time we should take a moment on this coming Labor Day to remember those who dedicated themselves to the improvement of our work place conditions.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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