A Note to My Readers

Every once in a while, I come across writings of others which impress me so much that I want to share them with you. Today’s Blog is such a message. It is written by my friend the well-known author, writer and health care executive, Glen Van Ekeren, whose blog “Enthused About Life” is very popular. I hope you are as moved by it as I have been.

Measuring Greatness

“The way I like to measure greatness is…How many people can you make want to be better? In your time on earth, how many people can you affect? Or how many people can you inspire?”

– Will Smith

I’ve Been Thinking. . . I can’t think of a better way to measure personal greatness than by the lives you enrich?

(Editor’s Note: You probably know this story from the popularized television commercial, but Glen includes the actual story here, with historic reference link, in case you missed it and to make his point.)

Wishing to encourage her young son’s progress on the piano, a mother took her boy to a Paderewski concert. After they were seated, the mother spotted an old friend in the audience and walked down the aisle to greet her. Seizing the opportunity to explore the wonders of the concert hall, the little boy rose and eventually explored his way through a door marked “no admittance”. When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing.

Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impressive Steinway piano on stage. In horror, the mother saw her little boy sitting at the keyboard, innocently picking out Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. At that moment, the great piano master made his entrance, quickly moved to the piano, and whispered in the boy’s ear, “Don’t quit. Keep playing.”

Then, leaning over, Paderewski reached down with his left hand and began filling in a bass part. Soon his right arm reached around to the other side of the child, and he added a running obbligato. Together, the old master and the young novice transformed what could have been a frightening situation into a wonderfully creative experience. The audience was so mesmerized that they couldn’t recall what else the great master played. Only the classic, Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ignacy_Jan_Paderewski

I love working with team members who reflect Paderewski’s attitude: willing to give up center stage. True all-stars aren’t overly impressed with themselves. They may have ‘star’ billing but understand they are only as good as their teammates help them to be.

No one team member is indispensable but every team member deserves a shot at center stage. Leaving egos at the door levels the playing field for everyone.

Encourage the contribution of others. “Don’t Quit. Keep Playing.” Can you imagine how the little boy felt when the superstar arrived, shared the bench and encouraged him to keep doing what he was doing.

People often overlook the positive impact a little encouragement can provide. Someone once said, “Encouragement is oxygen to the soul.” Encouragement improves quality of life. . . and performance.

Reach in to help make sweet music. Great team players add their strengths to the performance thereby helping to create win-win results for everyone.

The most satisfying achievements are masterfully orchestrated by combining individual talents and collaborating efforts to achieve a unified goal.

Celebrate “We” successes. Basketball Hall of Famer Bill Russell, when asked about the importance of team work, responded: “The most important measure of how good of a game I played was how much better I’d made my teammates play.” There’s nothing more fun for a team than celebrating “we” successes.

How are you measuring your greatness?

“When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.”
– William Arthur Ward

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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The Most Important Word

A woman came out of her home and saw Three Old Men
She said, “I don’t think I know you. Please come in and have something to eat.”

They asked; “Is the man of the house at home?”
“No, he is out”
. “Then we cannot come in”
.
In the evening, when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go and invite them in”, he said.

The woman went and invited them in.
“We do not go into a house together.”
Why is that?”

One of them then explained; “He is Wealth and the other is Success and I am Love.

Now ask your husband which one of Us is invited in.”

The woman told her husband what was said. “Since that is the case, lets invite Wealth His wife disagreed. “My dear why don’t we invite “Success?”

Their daughter jumped in with her suggestion; “Would it not be better to invite Love? “Let us heed our Daughter’s advice” said the husband to his wife.

The woman went out and asked the Three Old Men, “Which one of you is Love. Please come in and be our guest. Love got up and starting walking toward the house.

The other Two got up and followed him. Surprised the Woman asked; “Why are you coming in?” The Old Men replied together “If you had invited Wealth or Success the Other two of us would have stayed out. But since you invited Love, wherever he goes, We go with him”.

Akella Gourisankar
Management Advisor
Patna Area, India

Dictionaries are filled with words and their meaning. We are taught how to correctly spell them and given an interpretation of how they came to be.

What is not included, is the rating of which of these words has the most important affect on our lives. In fact if you think about it and look at what is going on in our lives every day, there is only one word, above all others, that has the most impact on our lives.

That word is love. No matter what your religious or personal belief, the fact is that all faiths are based on the word love. The love between two persons forms the basis of all human goodness.

Think about this; when we are born we have a love relationship with our parents. As we grow and leave that “Love” affair and our parents play a different role in our lives we move into a love relationship with another human being.

Our lives are forever affected by the love we share with our Creator, our family, our friends and the community.

There is nothing sadder than to watch the events that are taking place in our society as love is being replaced by hatred and distrust.

As the holiday season, a time for love and sharing, comes to a close, stop and think about what you can do to recognize the most important word in the dictionary — love, and enrich your life with its meaning and power.

Happy Holidays

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Thought for Thanksgiving


Eddie in Dallas, calls his son in New York just before Thanksgiving and tells him, “I am sorry to tell you but your mother and I are going to divorcing. I just cannot take any more of her moaning. We can’t stand the sight of each other anymore.’ I am telling you first, Eddie, because you are the eldest, please tell your sister”.

When Eddie calls his sister Julie, she says, “No way are they getting divorced, I will go over and see them for Thanksgiving.”

Julie phones here parents and tells them both, “You must NOT get divorced. Promise you won’t do anything until I get over there. I’m calling Eddie, and we’ll both be there with you tomorrow. Until then, don’t take any action, please listen to me”, and hangs up.

The father puts down the phone and turns to his wife and says, “Good news, Eddie and Julie are coming for Thanksgiving and they are both paying their own way.”

As we begin the Holiday Season it is time to take a recess from our fast-paced lives and reflect on what we individually, as well as collectively, have to be thankful for.

It is impossible to pick up a newspaper, turn on the television, or carry on discussions with business associates, family, or friends without being exposed to sadness and gloom. As a result, our daily lives are filled with negativity.

Realistically, however, if you stop to think about it, you will realize that there are many things we Americans have to be thankful for despite the challenges we face each and every day.

We live in a country where we are free to be with our family and friends. We have opportunities, despite the politics of the moment, to obtain an education, grow economically and have the most advanced medical care in the world and are free to practice our desired religious faith.
And most importantly, Americans can still speak out, both at the ballot box and publicly, to protest inequality in our society; if only we have the fortitude to so.

Finally, we are each free to pursue our dreams and make a difference in the lives of others.
When we stop and look at what is happening in countries around the world, is it any wonder why we should not, as we sit down to Thanksgiving Dinner with our families and friends, or as we serve those less fortunate, to understand that we have so much to be thankful for?

Enjoy the Holidays

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant.

During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Celebrating Awareness Month

An elderly woman decided to prepare her will and told her preacher she had two final requests. First, she wanted to be cremated and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Wal-Mart. Wal-Mart?” the preacher exclaimed. “Why Wal-Mart?” She answered, “Then I’ll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week.”

October is National Awareness Month; what exactly does that mean and why do we need to celebrate it?

We live at a time when our lives are on a fast track every day. We no longer Work to Live, but are more and more living to work. There is hardly any time to grow our lives by using one of our most God given assets, awareness.

Awareness of what is going on around us; awareness of the opportunities which are available to us to enjoy life, accomplish our dreams, enrich our minds, grow relationships. Awareness is also taking note of those in our community who are physically, mentally and financially afflicted; not only help them and their families financially, but to include them as members of our society.

Personally, I spend many hours each week with these groups and witness how they live in fear of being treated as being different not like us. The fact is, every day accidents occur which leave a loved one with a serious physical or mental disability. Suddenly, that person and their family joins those that society erroneously deems as being different.

If you want to be excited and inspired by the many members of our community who are adding to their awareness and enriching their lives by reaching out to those less fortunate, visit the Leichman Career & Transition Center in Van Nuys, or The Legacy in Woodman Hills. Become aware of the opportunities there are for you to add to your joy by understanding and putting your arms around those less fortunate than you.

We do not fully appreciate how fortunate we are until we are faced with the loss of that awareness through the aging process. It is indeed sad to visit assisted living centers, and nursing homes and meet senior citizens who are in reasonably good health, but have retired and given up on life. They have completely ignored the wonderful opportunities they have to keep themselves mentally sharp while helping young persons and their families by writing, speaking about, or personally sharing their thoughts with the generation that follows them.

I am 88 years of age. Each day, just by reading newspapers, magazines and being active in community activities, I become aware of opportunities to serve my community and bring joy to others.

Yes my dear readers, life does not only end on your last day, it ends when you give up living it and stop being aware of the joy you can have each day by remaining actively involved and seeking new opportunities.

Bernie’s 2 Books; How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life and Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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God Is Looking Out For Us

Most seniors never get enough exercise.

In his wisdom, God decreed that seniors become forgetful so they would have to search for their glasses, keys and other things, thus doing more walking. And God looked down and saw that it was good.

 Then God saw there was another need. In His wisdom He made seniors lose co-ordination so they would drop things, requiring them to bend, reach, and stretch. And God looked down and saw that it was good.

Then God considered the function of bladders and decided seniors would have additional calls of nature, requiring more trips to the bathroom, thus providing more exercise. God looked down and saw that it was good.

 So if you find as you age, you are getting up and down more, remember it’s God’s will. It is all in your best interest even though you mutter under your breath.

Over the past two weeks several events have occurred which underscore the importance that each person, at the earliest age, dedicate themselves to finding their meaning in life.

The first event was the news that a home, near where I lived, had blown up as a result of a short in the electrical system of a living room recliner chair. One person was seriously injured and one person killed. My empathy went out to those affected and I continued on my journey of life.

A week later I received an email from my friend and internationally respected Rabbi Ed Feinstein, informing me that his Father Burt, a dynamic brilliant retired baker and long time friend of mine was in a rehab facility near my home and would appreciate having visitors. I was stunned to learn that it was Burt’s home that had blown up and that he was seriously injured and his lovely care-giver was killed.

I immediately made arrangements to visit him and I was pleased to see him making a good recovery and in a very contemplative mood. He said that even though he was 90 years of age he had much to offer society and he suggested that it was most difficult for a person who retires to live a happy life free from the fear that as they get older they are moving toward death. In my daily activities which include visiting seniors in different homes for the aged as well in the community, I hear this all of the time. If you read on I will provide the answer to that question.

The second incident was the horrible event which took so many lives, of all ages-young and senior-in Las Vegas, a city in which I lived for 21 years.

Each of these events demonstrate why it is important to understand that, from the day we are born until the journey ends-and it can happen days, weeks, months, or years after our birth, that we live our lives not in fear of death but in anticipation of a happy tomorrow: finding time each day for expressing our love for our family and friends, time to help others less fortunate than ourselves and time for pursuing our goals.

What this means is that we should plan our lives by working smart and not hard and as we get older we need to be certain to share our knowledge with those who follow us. Burt asked me what I meant by that last comment as he is confined to a wheel chair as a result of a stroke he suffered some years ago.

I suggested he get a tape recorder and spend his day talking into it sharing his life’s experiences so that when his time comes, his wisdom would be available to others.

And to those who are still active in their late years, I suggest doing volunteer work with youngsters in public schools and reaching out to help those with disabilities and other physical or mental conditions.

Living a full and meaningful life from our earliest days and finding ways to deal with the many forks in the road, enables us to be good and valuable human beings when our days are completed — no matter when that is.

When someone tells me they fear death, I say know what you are saying is that you fear life and you need to learn how to live it!!!!!!

Have a Day of Joy

Bernie Otis

Bernie’s Books; How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life and Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Rules to Live By

After a long hot summer pause, during which I spent time with my dear friend Christina working on behalf of the Disabilities Community, I am back to my Blog writing and begin with a repeat of a blog I wrote several years ago which is worth repeating for the benefit of my new and regular blog readers. It is as applicable today as it was four years ago.

Very often my blog readers send me quotations, copies of articles, and funny stories which are so appropriate to the things I write about that, with their permission, I use them in place of my own thoughts.

My biggest contributor to this process is Joan Vieweger a principal of my favorite custom candy maker Choclatique. I know you will enjoy its message.

This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Regina Brett

90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

 

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.”

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short, enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8.  It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9.  Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the future.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don’t worry, God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special        occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d gra b ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

If you haven’t gotten your copy of my best-selling book, How to Prepare for Old Age: Without taking the fun out of life, please get your copy at your favorite bookstore or online at B&N or Amazon – today!

Bernie Otis is a well-known writer, author, and speaker, as well as a highly respected food, beverage, laundry, and marketing/sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

 Bernie’s book, How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” is an Amazon best-seller. Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on SeniorLiving Facilities and other issues related to Aging.

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Tribute to the Workers of the World

A fellow stopped at a rural gas station and, after filling his tank, bought a soft drink. He stood by his car to drink his cola and he watched a couple of men working along the roadside.
One man would dig a hole two or three feet deep and then move on. The other man came along behind and filled in the hole. While one was digging a new hole, the other was about 25 feet behind filling in the old.
“Hold it, hold it,” the fellow said to the men. “Can you tell me what’s going on here with this digging?”
“Well, we work for the county government,” one of the men said.
“But one of you is digging a hole and the other is filling it up. You’re not accomplishing anything. Aren’t you wasting the county’s money?”
“You don’t understand, mister,” one of the men said, leaning on his shovel and wiping his brow. “Normally there’s three of us; me, Joe and Mike. I dig the hole, Joe sticks in the tree and Mike here puts the dirt back.”
“Yeah,” piped up Mike. “Now just because Joe is sick, that doesn’t mean we can’t work, does it?”

On Monday September 5, 1887, 10,000 workers in New York took off work and gave up their pay to march from Union Square to City Hall to protest their unfair working conditions. As working conditions nationwide continued to worsen, more and more protests were held throughout the Country and in 1897, Oregon became the first of the States to make the first Monday in September a legal holiday called Labor Day.

This day has a particular meaning to me. As a teenager growing up in Detroit, Michigan I worked as a clerk in a major law firm which was partially owned by Victor Reuther, the brother of the founder of the United Auto Workers (UAW), Walter Reuther.

Both Walter and Victor were warm persons dedicated to making the horrendous working conditions in business and manufacturing firms better for millions of low paid workers throughout America.

In fact I stood beside Walter Reuther during the famous Battle of River Rouge, which occurred when thousands of Ford Motor Company employees marched against that Company in protest of their working conditions-a battle which forced one of the most anti-labor industrialists, Henry Ford to recognize the UAW and make improvements in the workers working conditions.

It was war time and Detroit, being the center of manufacturing of weapons, aircraft and other defense needs, was the center of the struggle to provide decent wages and working conditions for labor.

Throughout the country there were major parades, picnics and celebrations of the role of labor. On Labor Day, the President of The United States would come to Detroit to make major speeches. My fondest memory of that event was having Walter Reuther introduce me to President Harry Truman, who was accompanied by Senator Hubert Humphrey on Labor Day 1948 (As a result of the meeting I ended up working with the Senator when he founded the ADA-American’s for Democratic Action).

So, to all of you wonderful persons who labor every day to make our lives better, we should all join together and say thanks for being there for us and at the same time we should take a moment on this coming Labor Day to remember those who dedicated themselves to the improvement of our work place conditions.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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How Technology Has Affected Our Life-Choices

The owner of a large American furniture manufacturing company went to Hungary to purchase some materials for his company.

As he was leaving a restaurant, he passed a very beautiful woman who smiled at him. He returned the smile and attempted to make her acquaintance, but because of the differences in their languages, they could not understand each other.

He drew a picture of a car and she indicated agreement, so they went for a ride in his car.

He drew a picture of a bar and she nodded in agreement, so they went to a bar and had a few drinks. He drew a picture of two dancers, so they got on the dance floor and danced.

She then indicated that she wanted to use his paper and pencil, and she drew a picture of a four-poster bed. He was confused and dropped her off where this had all started.

The next day, he was telling a friend about his experience with the woman, and he said, “I wonder how she knew I was in the furniture business?”

 

Within a few weeks schools children around the Country will begin a new year. There has never been a more challenging time for both parents and children as our educational system is struggling to find the answer as to what kind of school, i.e. public or private, will provide our children with the best education for success in life.

This is a significant change from what those growing up in my age group had to deal with. We finished high school and went on to college taking Liberal Arts or some other type courses, as we slowly decided where we wanted to end up-even if we eventually changed direction.

Today, as early as grade school, students are exposed to technology which excites them, such as Robotics, etc. and begins to point them towards careers which will affect them forever.

This not only affects the child’s life, but has a profound effect, not necessarily favorably, on their parents. They may have little knowledge about how technology is going to affect their child’s future life, or the kinds of activities they need to encourage children to get involved in which will compliment their future choices.

For example, without exception, today it is essential that our youth become efficient in mathematics if they are to become successful in almost any field of endeavor.

Often, when their children have difficulty with the subject of math, instead of finding tutors who know how to help the child become proficient, the parents tell them to, “just do the best you can.” If we are to help our kids have success in this technological era we need to help them not “do your best” but “be their best.”

Let me share with you, my readers, a personal experience. My Rotary Club was recently asked to have a group of its senior members give talks in local high schools, sharing our life’s experiences with the senior class students. I was asked to be part of that group.

Following my talk, I was contacted by a number of those students who asked me to meet privately with them and give them some advice about their future. I met one of these young persons for breakfast where he told me that his parents did not understand his goals in life and could not advise him about what college to attend in order to achieve those goals.

I urge all parents to sit down with your children: ask them what is important to them, learn what they see as their role in life and what they want their future to look like. Do not, I urge you, do not tell them what you want them to do-but listen to their dreams.

Then do all you can to help them find the path to their wants and seek the help of professionals to ensure that they have the right guidance.

And one final thought: do not tell your child that you will reward them for being good at a particular sport. Success at soccer will never replace a well planned carefully sought out career.

The journey of life is exciting, challenging and rewarding, but just as we must plan for old age, we must carefully plan the trip which gets us there.

PLEASE VISIT YOUR LOCAL BARNES & NOBLE OR INDEPENDENT BOOKSTORE AND ASK FOR MY BOOK. MY PUBLISHER NOW DISTRIBUTES TO BOOKSTORES NATION-WIDE!

Bernie’s Book; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” is a Best Seller on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Stuff Happens

I am deeply indebted to my friend Glenn Nan Ekeren, a well-known health care executive, writer, author and speaker who writes a blog entitled “ENTHUSEDABOUTLIFE”, for giving me permission to share this, his latest Blog with my readers.

Glenn has been one of my many teachers ever since I read his book (a must for all speakers), “The Speaker’s Source Book”, published in 1988 by Prentice Hall. I found this Blog most exciting and hope you will as well.

From ENTHUSEDABOUTLIFE.com

A young man lay sprawled across three seats in the Orpheum Theater in Omaha, Nebraska when an usher noticed the abnormal situation.

He approached the motionless man and told him he would need to sit up as he was allowed to occupy one seat.

The young man offered a groan but no movement.  The usher brought the manager to attend to the situation.  Together they did their best to move the young man but to no avail.

Finally, the security personnel were summoned.  They surveyed the situation and then asked, “Hey buddy, what’s your name?”

“Pete,” the young man whispered.

“Where you from Pete?”

With obvious pain in his voice Pete muttered, “The balcony.”

Stuff Happens!

“You only find out who is swimming naked when the tide goes out.”

– Warren Buffett Investor, billionaire, and philanthropist

 

I’ve Been Thinking. . . about the storms and rising tides of life.

Haruki Murakami reminds us, “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

There are times in everyone’s life when adversity, hardships and storms are hiding around every corner.   It seems impossible to catch a break. While it’s easy to get discouraged or frustrated; in the scheme of life, it helps to keep it all in perspective.

President John F. Kennedy was once asked how he became a war hero.  His response:  “It was quite easy.  Someone sunk my boat.”

Stuff Happens!

Advice columnist Ann Landers wrote, “If we’re asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, ‘I will be bigger than you.  You cannot defeat me.”

Stuff Happens!

Gwynedd Mercy University senior Justin DeLuzio was competing in an 8k race when someone yelled, “Watch out for the deer!”  A deer struck him in the stomach, and he fell to the ground as more deer ran across the course.

“I turn my head a little bit to the left, and he comes right there,” DeLuzio said in a television interview.  “He knocked me down pretty good.”

A teammate helped DeLuzio to his feet, and he finished the race, placing 249th.

Weird Stuff Definitely Happens!

A paratrooper want-to-be was learning to parachute. The instructor gave these succinct orders:

  1. Jump when you are told to jump.
  2. Count to ten, then pull the ripcord.
  3. If the first chute doesn’t open, pull the second ripcord.
  4. When you land, a white van will be there to pick you up.

When the plane got over the landing area, the young man jumped when it was his turn. He counted to ten, then pulled the ripcord.  Nothing happened. He pulled the second ripcord. Nothing happened.

“0h great,” he said to himself. I’ll bet the van won’t be there to pick me up, either.”

Bad Stuff Happens!

So listen up. . .

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”

–  Maya Angelou

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Like Glenn’s message, I remind my readers that sometimes it is only when we find ourselves flat on our backs because of bad decisions, do we find the inner strength to raise ourselves up and make the right decisions.

Bernie Otis

Bernie Otis is a well-known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Independence Carries With It Responsibility

The Fourth of July weekend was coming up, and the nursery school teacher took the opportunity to tell her class about patriotism.

 “We live in a great country,” she said. “One of the things we should be happy about is that, in this country, we are all free.”

 One little boy came walking up to her from the back of the room. He stood with his hands on his hips and said: “I’m not free. I’m four.”

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 In his well written 1974 book, “Thomas Jefferson – An Intimate History” the Author tells us that, in June of 1776, Jefferson returned to the Virginia Congress, after he had disappeared from public view for four months. He had returned to Monticello to deal with his terrible, incapacitating migraine headache problem (which disappeared after his presidency), his mother’s serious illness and his complicated marital situation. Upon his return, Thomas Jefferson asked John Adams to write the Declaration of Independence. Adams told Jefferson that he, Jefferson, was much more qualified to write that document.

Jefferson agreed and in just a few days submitted a draft of the document which contained three main themes; condemnation of the King of England for his treatment of slaves, a listing of Jefferson’s  relationships with members of his family who were supportive of the King and a rewording of John Locke’s words, “We hold these Truths to Be Self Evident –that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and Property” (Jefferson changed the word Property to Happiness).

Much to Jefferson’s chagrin, the Continental Congress removed the first two themes from the original documents before it was accepted and either on July 2, 1976 or July 4, 1976-there is a controversy as to the actual date, the document was signed. Jefferson moved into virtual oblivion and in fact, it was not until 1784 that he was openly recognized for having written the Declaration of Independence.

What is most interesting to me, is that just as the word Independence had a number of meanings to Jefferson, believed that those in the Colonies needed to be independent of the control by the British and that the people needed to take responsibility for their way of life and relationships in the “New World”. That remains even more so today. If we are to remain a free society we need to be vigilant of the way in which we are governed at this time, as well as how we interact with one another, to assure that we are able to enjoy a happy life.

But Independence carries with it responsibility. That means that when, as individuals, we are no longer able to be independent, we need to be wise enough to give up part of our independence so as to protect that of our families and loved ones.

Far too many individuals who are aging and losing control of their daily functions, are holding on to their independence and by so doing affecting the life, liberty and pursuit of happiness of their loved ones and causing them  anxiety and anguish as they see those they love struggling with life.

If, as you age, you can see that you cannot remain independent, speak up and seek help from all of those with whom you interact. And if you see a loved one struggling with independence, speak up and provide them the help they need to maintain their mental independence while dealing with their physical needs.

In closing, let me lament that fact that until the early 1960’s Independence Day was a day for family and friends to celebrate, have barbeques at home or in public parks and in the evening watch fireworks; much of that has changed. Today’s youth miss much of the meaning of what Independence Day is all about.

 Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker and Community Leader. His Best Selling Book: “How to Prepare for Old Age” “Without Taking the Fun Out of Life” can be found on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Read his Blogs at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 If you would like to have Bernie’s advice and help in finding the right facility for your needs contact him at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com. 818-519-8347. There is no cost involved.

 Bernie also recently wrote the History of the Restaurant Industry in the San Fernando Valley, for the Los Angeles Library Commission

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