Anger and Forgiveness

Impediments to a Happy Aging Process

“A father and son from a small European Country are visiting the United States and are in a major shopping center. Their excitement at all the things they see that are new to them is heightened by two highly polished walls that move apart and come together again.

The young boy asks his father what they are and the father says he does not know. Just then the walls separate and an elderly woman walks in between them and the walls close. A few minutes later the walls once again separate and a vivacious beautiful young woman walks out.

The father is very quiet and then says to his son, “I really don’t know what they are, but we need to get one for your mother”.

It would be natural to ask what the subject of Anger and Forgiveness have to do with the journey through life and why it needs to be discussed as part of the Preparation for Old Age.

If you stop and think about it, some of the most painful periods of our lives revolve around these very issues. As I interviewed people of all ages for my Book the term “Dysfunctional’, Bitter, “Disruptive”, “ Hate” etc., were commonly used in answer to my questions about family relationships, personal friendships and business dealings.

And do not think for a moment that our children do not see and hear our reaction to such relationships and end up factoring our resentments into their future handling of similar circumstances.

One cannot read the stories told in the Old and New Testaments, as well as other historical documents about life through the ages, without recognizing that since the beginning of our existence, the issues of anger and forgiveness have caused much distress to mankind and have been a major factor in the breakup of families as well as their reconciliation.

There is the story told of a young man who, while attending the 50th wedding anniversary of a family friend, jokingly asked the husband of the celebrants if, during his long marriage, he had ever considered divorce. The man quickly answered “Divorce, never. Murder, numerous times.”

How many times in your lifetime has someone you know – family or friend – done something to you that clearly made you angry enough to not want them to be in your life?

Recently, I met a dear friend 85 years of age. She told me that, while engaged in a social card game with another woman her age, the other party realized she had no money and
my friend loaned her 50 cents which the woman said she would pay back, but never did.
My friend told me how angry she was at the other party and I asked her if it was worth getting herself so upset over such a ridiculous matter. She could not contain herself. I can never understand why we human beings allow ourselves to end relationships and even worse impair our own well being over what, in almost all situations of anger, are so insignificant in the whole picture of life.

“Many people lose their tempers merely from seeing you keep yours”
Frank Moore Kelly

There is a very active widower in his 80’s who had just a few months earlier lost the woman he adored in their 30th year of marriage. While not actively seeking a new romance, he met a woman who completely captivated him.

In the process of advancing a relationship with her, he became overzealous and upset this beautiful woman to the point where she broke off the relationship and ceased speaking to him.

After taking some time to evaluate how important the relationship was to him, and what he could have done differently to enhance it, he decided that the only way to try to rectify the situation was to take full responsibility for what had happened. Even though he sincerely believed that not all of the blame fell on him, he determined it was not worth pointed fingers when what he desired was reconciliation.

As of this writing, following his taking that responsibility, the door to a friendship between the parties has been reopened.

In my lifetime, I have seen the most incredible examples of true love lost, family breakups, and painful relationships taken to the grave over the unwillingness to reconcile differences: over what, in the entire picture of life, are petty issues involving nothing more than hurt egos.

“Learning to ignore things is one of the great paths to inner peace”
Anonymous

Sometimes, when things go wrong in a relationship, in the scheme of things, being angry and right will cause you long term pain while moving on and enjoying may be the better of solutions.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging. Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Care for Those Who Care For Us

Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson went on a camping trip. After a good meal and a bottle of wine, they laid down for the night, and went to sleep.
Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his faithful friend. “Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see.” Watson replied, “I see millions and millions of stars.”

Holmes replied “What does that tell you?”

Watson pondered for a minute. “Astronomically, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies, and potentially billions of planets. Astrologically, I observe that Saturn is in Leo. Horologically, I deduce that the time is approximately a quarter past three. Theologically, I can see that God is all powerful and that we are small and insignificant. Meteorologically, I suspect that we will have a beautiful day tomorrow.

What does it tell you?”

Holmes was silent for a minute then spoke. “It tells me that someone has stolen our tent.”

My dear readers, I do not normally write blogs that deal with religion and politics, but due to what is emerging as a major problem that can affect every American’s health care, I have decided to speak out and urge each of you to consider doing the same.

In the March, we celebrated Senior Care Giver Month, honoring the hundreds of thousands of those who are dedicated to caring for those with serious disease, aging issues, disabilities and a multitude of health issues.

The persons I am referring to are volunteers, family members, and paid professionals who work anywhere from a few hours a day, to daily working long hours, often having little sleep while being subjected to all kinds of living conditions.

A significant number of these dedicated individuals, are immigrants who have been living in our county for many years and who work for below minimum wage, without whom the average American would not be able to afford a caregiver.

Unfortunately, our political system-including all parties are using these individuals as a political football to accomplish their political goals. This must not only stop, but every caring American needs to become actively involved in making certain that it does; not only because it is the right thing to do, but because every one of us may unexpectedly be affected by what our chosen leaders are doing.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Love Your Neighbor Like Yourself

Before I share my thoughts about today’s message, I want to thank all of those who have been asking if I am okay since I have missed several weeks of Blogs.

Yes, dear friends I am fine. I took some time off to go though the usual series of health exams which my doctors advised I must do since I am now the ripe old age of 89.

So, what did I learn? The final diagnosis is that I am quite okay although I do have a disease called AGE, which they tell me is not curable, but manageable. I can’t tell you how good that has made me feel.

During my pause in writing, I gave a lot of thought as to what has been going around in our society and that process came to a conclusion yesterday when I participated in a an incredible interfaith luncheon.

Held under the auspices of the Peace Committee of Rotary International, of which I have been a member since 1954; holding many offices and receiving High Honors. The luncheon was held at the West Valley Chamber of Commerce facilities in the San Fernando Valley of Los Angeles, and was sponsored by my Rotary Club of Woodland Hills.

The meeting was lead by the remarkable Paul Gross, President of the Woodland Hills Club and featured Rabbi Paul J. Kipnes, Ross Porter, Director of Faith Formation and Evangelization at St. Mel’s Church and Shaykh Mulla, Resident Scholar, Islamic Society, Canoga Park, Ca.

The close to 100 attendees enjoyed lunch, listened to the three speakers give their view of what we need to do to heal our society, then broke into discussions groups which were tasked with proposing questions to the speakers.

What came out of this discussion, was almost uniform agreement among the attendees and leaders that all religions, regardless of differences in ritualistic practice and theory, believe in loving and respecting our neighbors; that we each individually need to reach out to the ‘the stranger in our land’ and learn who they are and share our values with each other. By doing that, and teaching our loved ones to do that, we can, regardless of the politics involved, take a big step in healing the world.

That message was never more true as it applied to my own life:

I was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan. My parents founded the largest Orthodox Synagogue in the Midwest and I lived in a predominantly Jewish/ Catholic neighborhood.
In fact, I lived just yards away from a 95% Jewish High School and my neighbors were Rosa Parks and Joe Lewis, the latter with whom I ran track on weekends.

!n 1944 I made what turned out to be the most important decision in my life, one for which I have been rewarded every day—although I did not realize that at the time.

I wanted to be an architect and so, instead of going to the neighborhood high school, I chose to go the still famous Cass Technical School, eight miles for my home, in downtown Detroit. We had thousands of students from every faith, creed, culture, race, and origin of birth. I spent three years (two as Student Council President) living, eating, and at times sleeping in the homes of my fellow students and learning about my neighbors.

What a difference it has made in my life and how I see those who I am today told are somewhat “different” than me.

Trust me dear friends they are not !!!!!!!

So, do yourself and self and our society a favor. Reach out to your neighbors; go to their churches, spend time with their families, break bread with them and discover the beauty that exists within each human being.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Fill Your LIfe With Love

To my wonderful readers. Each year, as Valentine day approaches, I can think of no better words to share with you than those contained in a message that was sent to me by my friend and ardent Blog reader, Joan Vieweger. Joan is a principal of Choclatique who, along with her food genius partner Ed Engoron, run one of if not the world’s greatest creators of specialty chocolates.

While we do not know who wrote it, it is certainly a powerful message and does not need any commentary from me other than to wish you and those you love a wonderful Valentine’s day filled with Love.

Another year has passed
And we’re all a little older.
Last summer felt hotter
And winter seems much colder.

There was a time not long ago
When life was quite a blast.
Now I fully understand
About ‘Living in the Past’

We used to go to weddings,
Football games and lunches..
Now we go to funeral homes
And after-funeral brunches.

We used to have hangovers,
From parties that were gay.
Now we suffer body aches
And whine the night away.

We used to go out dining,
And couldn’t get our fill.
Now we ask for doggie bags,
Come home and take a pill.

We used to often travel
To places near and far.
Now we get sore asses
From riding in the car.

We used to go to nightclubs
And drink a little booze.
Now we stay home at night
And watch the evening news.

That, my friend is how life is,
And now my tale is told.
So, enjoy each day and live it up…
Before you’re too damned old!

See Choclatique @ www.choclatique.com/

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging and will be staring to teach a class about how to enjoy life’s journey, at the new Calabasas, California Senior Center on Wednesday, February , 2017.

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Bob was in trouble. He forgot his wedding anniversary. His wife was really angry. She told him “Tomorrow morning, I expect to find a gift in the driveway that goes from 0 to 200 in 6 seconds AND IT BETTER BE THERE!”

The next morning he got up early and left for work. When his wife woke up, she looked out the window and sure enough there was a box gift-wrapped in the middle of the driveway.

Confused, the wife put on her robe and ran out to the driveway, brought the box back in the house. She opened it and found a brand new bathroom scale.

Bob has been missing since Friday.

A little over a year ago, as we were leaving a party late one evening and I was helping my dear friend Christina into my car, which was sparked on a hilly street, I fell. Ever since then, Christina has told people that I fell for her at a party.

Getting more serious, over the past five years in my various writings about the journey of life, I have on many occasions written about the things we need to be concerned about as we age. Today, I want to address the issue which, according to every study on aging reports as the number one cause of death of seniors, and that is “Falling”.

Yes, dear friends, over 75% of deaths of those over 65 years of age result from a fall, which is followed by hospitalization, rehab, pneumonia, and death.

The single most important sense we have is that of “sight”. No matter what your age, when you see someone you know, a family member or friend, who it is obvious has a walking problem, do not be afraid to speak up to make certain they give up their independence and get help.

Park your car in the parking lot of any super market, shopping center, medical offices, etc. and watch as elderly persons get out of their cars and struggle with walkers to enter those buildings, and you quickly realize what danger confronts them.

It is not only a danger to their life, but if they survive the fall, they and their families are faced with large medical costs, many of which are not covered by insurance, for months, weeks, or years. The families of the elderly who live at home, also need to make certain that their loved one’s home is as fall safe as possible.

I live in an assisted living center, and I can sadly tell you, my readers that, despite the fact that the facility is well staffed and the high percentage of persons with walkers and wheel chairs have significant caregivers around them all the time, not a day goes by without one or more residents falling and requiring hospitalization; and not all of them survive.Those that do, are forever confined to wheel chairs and require personal caregivers 24 hours a day.

As we live longer, we are faced with a growing number of healthcare related issues. While our life can end due to many illnesses, it remains that falling and the related consequences, is the greatest life and financial threat to the elderly and their families.

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Reflections of Life As Seen Through the Poets’ Eyes

Bearing The Fruits of Old Age

Strange as it may seem to you I still remember it so clearly
She had soft flowing hair and sparkling eyes
And a smile so warm and glistening so sweet and tenderly
She was my Mother a warm precious woman who sang me beautiful lullabies.

Standing there beside her all smiles and expressing great joy
Was a handsome young man in his late 20’s who could not be any happier
As he looked at his family’s brand new Toy
And silently planned the youngster’s future life and career

As I lay there silently observing the two of them rejoice I could not help but wonder
Had the family that I was placed in been a very wise choice
While so far it seemed okay to me, I knew that only time would provide the answer
And then I heard these two persons say to each other “I love you” in a soft and caring voice.

Any doubts I had were gone and I relaxed and went to sleep waiting very excitingly
To see what the future held knowing that I was quite safe as my life’s journey began
Each day was filled with fun and felt heavenly as I learned to speak, walk and do other fun things
I laughed, played games as my father chased me as around the block as I ran
Now you may think that this is all nonsense and how could anyone remember such long ago things?
But it is really very true and there is even more
And as I go on looking back and so warmly remembering
What occurred in my life many, many years ago.

I continued my journey, with siblings who joined along the way
Along with extended family and friends added
My life was enriched and each and every day
I felt so much rewarded

Then a marriage and children followed and I watched in joy with some astonishment
As I became the parent like my own Parents were, from my very start
It was a great time and memorable moment
One that touched my loving heart

As time went on I suddenly found that the ones I had most loved and adored and who had taken such good care of me
Had aged and finally been take away
And all I had was a wonderful memory

Now, I am aging and my body is slowing down
It is my very good fortune to have an active mind and I remember as I did from the beginning
Each and every joyful event and the interesting life I have known
I watch my own children, grand and great grandchildren; life’s adventure they are winning

So to the young and Seniors of the world my message is the same. Learn from each other, grow your lives and forgive the errors others make as they took life’s journey.

A Poem by Bernard S. Otis

He’s Back!!!! For all those who have been writing and calling asking what happened to Bernie Otis, the answer is – I am back.

After taking some time between Thanksgiving and the New Year to reflect on where I have been and what the future looks like, as well as doing a lot of reading (one of my favorite pastimes), I am ready to accept the challenge the coming months present – in case you have not listened to the news lately.

In a few weeks, January 29th to be very specific, I will be celebrating my 89th Birthday. And while I do not normally use my religious resources in my writings, today’s Blog is based upon something that Rabbi Bradley Shavit Artson wrote in his interpretation of this past week’s Torah Portion, Va-Era (He Appeared). It is something persons of all ages should think about, but most specifically those who are moving close to their 80th year of life.

It is entitled “Bearing The Fruits of Old Age”

In our Society there is nothing more consuming than the fear of old age. We spend thousands of dollars on products that make us feel and look young, we find ways to dress to appear young, and we belong to health and exercise clubs to help make us youngish. But, as the Rabbi points out, “We can ward off death and prevent its encroachment into the realm of life, only by truly living each and every day, only by refusing to see the elderly as the walking dead, or by not viewing aging as the equivalent of dying.”

Just consider this: when you read the Bible you discover that Moses and his brother Aaron were both in their 80’s when they took on the Pharaoh. And nowhere else in the Torah are any other prophets addressed directly by God.

When you read the Bible and Torah you find that the Eighties are referred to as the years of strength. And what is that strength? Yes, the rabbi points out that, “surely a teenager is stronger physically, a child can run farther and exudes more energy, the acumen of a 40 year old is more quick and deft, and a 60 year old is more cognizant of the ways of the world. But, the strength of the 80’s is the wisdom that comes from experience and completion”

Those of us who have reached those fruitful years have lived a life filled with joy and happiness, we have experienced the pain and suffering, we can look at life with compassion and skepticism. We no longer need to work with passion and ambition. And we have spent time caring for the elderly.

So don’t put yourself, or those aged among you out into the pasture. Learn from us as we share with you the lessons that life has taught us.—the aged among our society still flourish like the Cedars planted in the Courthouse of our Creator.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Note to My Readers

Every once in a while, I come across writings of others which impress me so much that I want to share them with you. Today’s Blog is such a message. It is written by my friend the well-known author, writer and health care executive, Glen Van Ekeren, whose blog “Enthused About Life” is very popular. I hope you are as moved by it as I have been.

Measuring Greatness

“The way I like to measure greatness is…How many people can you make want to be better? In your time on earth, how many people can you affect? Or how many people can you inspire?”

– Will Smith

I’ve Been Thinking. . . I can’t think of a better way to measure personal greatness than by the lives you enrich?

(Editor’s Note: You probably know this story from the popularized television commercial, but Glen includes the actual story here, with historic reference link, in case you missed it and to make his point.)

Wishing to encourage her young son’s progress on the piano, a mother took her boy to a Paderewski concert. After they were seated, the mother spotted an old friend in the audience and walked down the aisle to greet her. Seizing the opportunity to explore the wonders of the concert hall, the little boy rose and eventually explored his way through a door marked “no admittance”. When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing.

Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impressive Steinway piano on stage. In horror, the mother saw her little boy sitting at the keyboard, innocently picking out Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. At that moment, the great piano master made his entrance, quickly moved to the piano, and whispered in the boy’s ear, “Don’t quit. Keep playing.”

Then, leaning over, Paderewski reached down with his left hand and began filling in a bass part. Soon his right arm reached around to the other side of the child, and he added a running obbligato. Together, the old master and the young novice transformed what could have been a frightening situation into a wonderfully creative experience. The audience was so mesmerized that they couldn’t recall what else the great master played. Only the classic, Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ignacy_Jan_Paderewski

I love working with team members who reflect Paderewski’s attitude: willing to give up center stage. True all-stars aren’t overly impressed with themselves. They may have ‘star’ billing but understand they are only as good as their teammates help them to be.

No one team member is indispensable but every team member deserves a shot at center stage. Leaving egos at the door levels the playing field for everyone.

Encourage the contribution of others. “Don’t Quit. Keep Playing.” Can you imagine how the little boy felt when the superstar arrived, shared the bench and encouraged him to keep doing what he was doing.

People often overlook the positive impact a little encouragement can provide. Someone once said, “Encouragement is oxygen to the soul.” Encouragement improves quality of life. . . and performance.

Reach in to help make sweet music. Great team players add their strengths to the performance thereby helping to create win-win results for everyone.

The most satisfying achievements are masterfully orchestrated by combining individual talents and collaborating efforts to achieve a unified goal.

Celebrate “We” successes. Basketball Hall of Famer Bill Russell, when asked about the importance of team work, responded: “The most important measure of how good of a game I played was how much better I’d made my teammates play.” There’s nothing more fun for a team than celebrating “we” successes.

How are you measuring your greatness?

“When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.”
– William Arthur Ward

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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The Most Important Word

A woman came out of her home and saw Three Old Men
She said, “I don’t think I know you. Please come in and have something to eat.”

They asked; “Is the man of the house at home?”
“No, he is out”
. “Then we cannot come in”
.
In the evening, when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go and invite them in”, he said.

The woman went and invited them in.
“We do not go into a house together.”
Why is that?”

One of them then explained; “He is Wealth and the other is Success and I am Love.

Now ask your husband which one of Us is invited in.”

The woman told her husband what was said. “Since that is the case, lets invite Wealth His wife disagreed. “My dear why don’t we invite “Success?”

Their daughter jumped in with her suggestion; “Would it not be better to invite Love? “Let us heed our Daughter’s advice” said the husband to his wife.

The woman went out and asked the Three Old Men, “Which one of you is Love. Please come in and be our guest. Love got up and starting walking toward the house.

The other Two got up and followed him. Surprised the Woman asked; “Why are you coming in?” The Old Men replied together “If you had invited Wealth or Success the Other two of us would have stayed out. But since you invited Love, wherever he goes, We go with him”.

Akella Gourisankar
Management Advisor
Patna Area, India

Dictionaries are filled with words and their meaning. We are taught how to correctly spell them and given an interpretation of how they came to be.

What is not included, is the rating of which of these words has the most important affect on our lives. In fact if you think about it and look at what is going on in our lives every day, there is only one word, above all others, that has the most impact on our lives.

That word is love. No matter what your religious or personal belief, the fact is that all faiths are based on the word love. The love between two persons forms the basis of all human goodness.

Think about this; when we are born we have a love relationship with our parents. As we grow and leave that “Love” affair and our parents play a different role in our lives we move into a love relationship with another human being.

Our lives are forever affected by the love we share with our Creator, our family, our friends and the community.

There is nothing sadder than to watch the events that are taking place in our society as love is being replaced by hatred and distrust.

As the holiday season, a time for love and sharing, comes to a close, stop and think about what you can do to recognize the most important word in the dictionary — love, and enrich your life with its meaning and power.

Happy Holidays

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant. During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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A Thought for Thanksgiving


Eddie in Dallas, calls his son in New York just before Thanksgiving and tells him, “I am sorry to tell you but your mother and I are going to divorcing. I just cannot take any more of her moaning. We can’t stand the sight of each other anymore.’ I am telling you first, Eddie, because you are the eldest, please tell your sister”.

When Eddie calls his sister Julie, she says, “No way are they getting divorced, I will go over and see them for Thanksgiving.”

Julie phones here parents and tells them both, “You must NOT get divorced. Promise you won’t do anything until I get over there. I’m calling Eddie, and we’ll both be there with you tomorrow. Until then, don’t take any action, please listen to me”, and hangs up.

The father puts down the phone and turns to his wife and says, “Good news, Eddie and Julie are coming for Thanksgiving and they are both paying their own way.”

As we begin the Holiday Season it is time to take a recess from our fast-paced lives and reflect on what we individually, as well as collectively, have to be thankful for.

It is impossible to pick up a newspaper, turn on the television, or carry on discussions with business associates, family, or friends without being exposed to sadness and gloom. As a result, our daily lives are filled with negativity.

Realistically, however, if you stop to think about it, you will realize that there are many things we Americans have to be thankful for despite the challenges we face each and every day.

We live in a country where we are free to be with our family and friends. We have opportunities, despite the politics of the moment, to obtain an education, grow economically and have the most advanced medical care in the world and are free to practice our desired religious faith.
And most importantly, Americans can still speak out, both at the ballot box and publicly, to protest inequality in our society; if only we have the fortitude to so.

Finally, we are each free to pursue our dreams and make a difference in the lives of others.
When we stop and look at what is happening in countries around the world, is it any wonder why we should not, as we sit down to Thanksgiving Dinner with our families and friends, or as we serve those less fortunate, to understand that we have so much to be thankful for?

Enjoy the Holidays

Bernie Otis is a well known Writer, Author, Speaker, as well as a highly respected Food, Beverage and Laundry Consultant, Marketing/Sales Consultant.

During his lifetime he has been involved in the Design and supplying of All major Hotels in Las Vegas, Disneyland and major hotels, hospitals and universities nationally and restaurants (he has been involved in the Design of almost all restaurants in Southern California.

Bernie’s 2 Books; “How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life” and “Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things” are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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Celebrating Awareness Month

An elderly woman decided to prepare her will and told her preacher she had two final requests. First, she wanted to be cremated and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Wal-Mart. Wal-Mart?” the preacher exclaimed. “Why Wal-Mart?” She answered, “Then I’ll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week.”

October is National Awareness Month; what exactly does that mean and why do we need to celebrate it?

We live at a time when our lives are on a fast track every day. We no longer Work to Live, but are more and more living to work. There is hardly any time to grow our lives by using one of our most God given assets, awareness.

Awareness of what is going on around us; awareness of the opportunities which are available to us to enjoy life, accomplish our dreams, enrich our minds, grow relationships. Awareness is also taking note of those in our community who are physically, mentally and financially afflicted; not only help them and their families financially, but to include them as members of our society.

Personally, I spend many hours each week with these groups and witness how they live in fear of being treated as being different not like us. The fact is, every day accidents occur which leave a loved one with a serious physical or mental disability. Suddenly, that person and their family joins those that society erroneously deems as being different.

If you want to be excited and inspired by the many members of our community who are adding to their awareness and enriching their lives by reaching out to those less fortunate, visit the Leichman Career & Transition Center in Van Nuys, or The Legacy in Woodman Hills. Become aware of the opportunities there are for you to add to your joy by understanding and putting your arms around those less fortunate than you.

We do not fully appreciate how fortunate we are until we are faced with the loss of that awareness through the aging process. It is indeed sad to visit assisted living centers, and nursing homes and meet senior citizens who are in reasonably good health, but have retired and given up on life. They have completely ignored the wonderful opportunities they have to keep themselves mentally sharp while helping young persons and their families by writing, speaking about, or personally sharing their thoughts with the generation that follows them.

I am 88 years of age. Each day, just by reading newspapers, magazines and being active in community activities, I become aware of opportunities to serve my community and bring joy to others.

Yes my dear readers, life does not only end on your last day, it ends when you give up living it and stop being aware of the joy you can have each day by remaining actively involved and seeking new opportunities.

Bernie’s 2 Books; How to Prepare for Old Age—Without Taking the Fun out of Life and Revenue Generation Through the Sale of Kumquats——And Other Things are Best Sellers on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. His weekly blogs can be read at http://seniormomentswithbernardotis.com/

 

Bernie also is an advisor to families needing information on Senior Living Facilities and other issues related to Aging

 Bernie can be reached at Seymour.Otis@gmail.com–818-519-8347

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